If someone is closed off, why are they out flirting in other people's business/lives? Some people don't believe in that stuff, closing off. They believe they have zoned into the collective decision on the compass to which points to the real love of their life, no matter what they give. Now, about that. I don't really want to be a certain way others probably don't want to be. Sometimes, I like both people in a couple but rarely not.