I just saw a Dutch lady who rules in Indonesia on TV with my mom, where her people have been from for longer than they've been there but roughly the same time. I feel undeserving, but those people seem so nice. If you took away the guilt people put on me, I'd feel unaccomplished and otherwise shitty. People used to say you weren't like your parents. I think it's the Late Boomer kids that made this change. They probably don't even like just their parents. I'm sure.